FA 104 Sexual Roles

Introduction topic


    • FOSTA - Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act

    • How this impacts the internet

      • The Moderator’s Dilemma

      • Stifles creativity and startups and gives power to the monopolies of Silicon Valley (Apple, Google, Microsoft)

      • Retroactive application

        • Potentially not enforceable but the entire bill sucks

    • How this impacts sex workers

      • Online screening is safer than streetwalking

      • The more “underground” something is the more likely the participants are to be abused

    • How this impacts the the Furry Fandom

      • Pounced Shutting Down

      • Will AD Twitters be legal?

      • Adult-oriented websites might be sanctioned

        • FurriesXtreme

        • AD Twitter

        • Recon / Fetlife (especially for the Pup community)

      • Any websites where goods and services are being exchanged might be sanctioned as a precaution


Sexual Roles

  • Dominance / submission axis

  • Top / bottom axis

  • Passive / active axis

  • Lifestyle vs scene play

Sexual Roles as Perspective Lenses

  • The role you portray influences who you attract into your life

  • “We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.” - Kurt Vonnegut

Advantages to trying new roles

  • “Try it, you might like it!”

  • Empathize better with your partner

  • Gain competence by understanding what it is you do to your partners

  • Experience your preferred role compersionately, rather than directly

    • Compersion isn’t just for polyfolk!



  • Subject: Help, polyamory is making me lose my best friend

    • At the start of the year I joined a small furry gaming group. Only about 10 people. As the year went on the group dropped to only about 6 and polyamory was introduced. Me and my husband joined this relationship, and it's going great. My problem though is, one of the members of the group who was one of my best friends at one point, doesn't want me in the poly relationship. His mate is in the poly relationship but he isn't and doesn't want me being romantic with his mate. Which has driven a divide in our gaming group, which was the point of the group to begin with. I want everyone to be happy but he isn't content unless I'm out of the picture? How do I go about this without feeling like i’m stepping on toes or without giving up a relationship I really want? I really want my friend back


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    • Saturday 10:30 PM, 18+

  • Contact info

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Metriko Oni

Metriko Oni is a former government environmental disaster mitigations expert with a focus on outreach, education, and policy writing. He now works with computers. He has been active in the fandom since 2013 and has been an advocate for transparent lines of communication. His interests include philosophy, media, futurism, and speculative fiction.