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Whether you are in a relationship that you are unsure of right now or if you are just venturing into the dating world, ask yourself these things before you settle down:
1. How do you feel about yourself when you’re around them?
2. Are my needs equal in importance to their own?
3. Are their core values in line with mine?
4. Do they want to know me? The real me?
5. Is my life better with them in it?
What causes independence to erode in a relationship
Marks of codependency
How to know if codependency is a problem in your relationship
Beware placing all of your eggs in one basket!
Strategies for maintaining independence
Maintain at least a few friends who are independent of your mate(s)
Independent friends make excellent confidants regarding relationship issues, but make sure you come to them with the good if you vent about the bad
If you vent about an issue that is later resolved to your satisfaction, inform your friends about your contentment with the resolution
Take trips apart
Consider attending furry conventions independently of each other, or attending different conventions that take place the same weekend
Room with different friend groups every once and awhile
Keep separate finances
Consider a “yours-mine-ours” approach or choose to simply divide up expenses rather than merging funds
Keep separate hobbies and interests
It’s a good idea to have at least some activities that you enjoy independently of your mate(s)
Independence vs Secrecy
There is little benefit to your relationship from maintaining independence if you don’t talk to your mate about the independent experiences that you have
Coming home to your mate to discuss what you’ve experienced and learned on your own ensures that you and your mate grow together rather than grow apart
Hi Feral Attraction,
You guys often talk about managing mismatched sex drives, but I was wondering if you had any advice on managing mismatched motivation drives. My boyfriend was pretty active before we moved in together, but after we got an apartment together he doesn’t want to go out (even to the gym), and our dates now consist of us watching television and going to sleep. I want to go out and enjoy life, but he’s making it impossible to do together. Am I doing something wrong? Should we break up? Help!
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