A retrospective of Feral Attraction, from Episode One to now
Favorite Episodes of doing the show
Least favorite moments of doing the show
Appearances in media
Responses to fandom / societal trends
Intolerant to intolerance
If you have the patience and empathy, trying to understand where those who leaving the alt-furs are coming from may help
Offering a path to redemption for those who see the see error in their ways
Don’t put up with violations of your own boundaries
Response to “Coddling of the American mind” and the decline in classical liberal values
Punching left when we need to punch right
Remember the value of big tent politics; it’s how durable social change is accomplished
Replacing treating ignorance with anger with empathy
Be better judges of intent
Don’t reject science that doesn’t fit a narrative, the left needs to remain reality-based!
How have we changed since starting the show
What changes can we expect to see coming forward
Metriko's departure (46:00)
How to give yourself the best advice for decision making
Pretend you are advising a friend
Your short-term emotions (and even your nostalgia/memories) can interfere with rational decision making
This helps you to overcome your default assumptions and sometimes make decisions that are the opposite of what you typically would
This can be helpful if you need to break out of your comfort zone a lot
Even if you end up going with the more comfortable decision, it allows for you to think more critically. We advise the following steps:
List all your assumptions about the decision
Reverse each assumption to its opposite
Ask yourself how to accomplish each reversal
This will again allow for you to determine what it is you really want to get out of the decision itself
Metriko: I use a KK Slider Amiibo and I address it like I am talking to myself
Limit the amount of information
While it is true that the more information you have available, the better, the catch is that it depends on the information being ready.
There is a point of diminishing returns with information, and we can get stuck in a rabbit hole of trying to find that missing piece of information rather than actually making a decision
Ron Friedman, Ph.D., wrote the following on this principle:
Generally, that curiosity is useful. In our evolutionary past, knowing whether that rustling in the bushes belonged to a tiger or a mouse could have meant the difference between life and death. We're wired to reduce uncertainty because our minds were adapted for another, more hazardous, time. Seeking out information comes with a downside, however, which accounts for the intriguing difference between the two groups. When data is missing, we overestimate its value. Our mind assumes that since we are expending resource locating information, it must be useful.
Ask yourself if the decision is reversible
At many points we make important decisions that might be life altering, but we imagine they will be permanent. While moving across the country is a big deal, that doesn’t mean that we can never afford the opportunity to move back.
The inconvenience might be overwhelming, but it can be reverted.
Again, this goes hand in hand with having too much information-- oftentimes even making a full pro/con sheet will cause us to focus too much on the information gathering and mitigation than it will the actual decision itself
Set a time limit for decision making
For small decisions (where to go to eat, whether to buy X or Y), consider a time limit of 2 minutes.
For larger decisions, especially ones that impact groups of people, try to take time to ensure that they are involved in the decision making process, but don’t give too much time as to never arrive at a conclusion. If a train doesn’t reach its destination it runs out of fuel and goes nowhere fast.
Sometimes though taking some time away from the decision and not thinking about it will help. Oftentimes a good night’s sleep will give a clearer head and easier decision making and problem solving
Ask if other people would be expected to do the same
Sometimes the decisions we make are not ones we feel are fair
Moving shifts at work
Moving across the country because a mate got a new job
Establish a Standard Operating Procedure
You can mitigate future choices, often with a simple if/then approach
If I am offered a new job with better pay, then I will tell my current work to see if they will increase my pay. If they tell me no then I will accept the other job.
Standard Operating Procedures can help to make unpredictable, unforeseen decisions a part of your routine, and rather than languishing over the decisions then you can actively make them
Think in both short term and long term
It’s easy to avoid making decisions because of a short term inconvenience, even if it presents a long term benefit
Think of decisions in a psychological sense of consequence-- positive and negative-- and try to make decisions that have the most long term positive consequences for you.
If you exist in reaction mode, only acting on the short term, and don’t plan proactively, more often than not we don’t make the difficult choices that are of maximum benefit
Consider the decisions you make and try to reduce the amount of active decision making you do in a day
A study from Columbia University shows we make roughly 70 conscious decisions a day and this leads to decision fatigue, where we are exhausted of choosing and either don’t choose at all or go with the most convenient option
This can actually have an impact on our integrity where we go along with things we typically would not just out of ego depletion
Try to analyze and make important decisions early in the day, and minimize the decisions you make
Even things as limiting your wardrobe will help
Regulating your life (you wake up at certain times, you eat certain things, you live in a routine way) may seem boring, but there is still room for improvisation and you curb the amount of decisions you make drastically
Avoid the past-tense What-If Game
While mitigating is a valid approach, that only works for setting up future decision making processes. Giving in to the hypothetical of “what if I’d gone the other way” is just us spinning our wheels
We need to live in the present, not in the past
Ultimately, we can only operate with the information we currently know
Professor Jim Taylor says “The bottom line of decision making involves determining which potential decision will offer the best possible outcome based on what we know now."
Stop Dreading Making Important Decisions
Philosopher Ruth Chang says this in her TED talk on making hard choices:
Far from being sources of agony and dread, hard choices are precious opportunities for us to celebrate what is special about the human condition, that the reasons that govern our choices as correct or incorrect sometimes run out, and it is here, in the space of hard choices, that we have the power to create reasons for ourselves to become the distinctive people that we are.
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