FA 093 Family Relationships

Introduction topic

  • Smoking pot associated with more sex - Stanford University Medical Center

    • Despite concerns among physicians and scientists that frequent marijuana use may impair sexual desire or performance, the opposite appears more likely to be the case, new research indicates.

    • The findings, to be published online Oct. 27 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, are based on an analysis of more than 50,000 Americans ages 25-45. And they're unambiguous.

    • "Frequent marijuana use doesn't seem to impair sexual motivation or performance. If anything, it's associated with increased coital frequency," said the study's senior author, Michael Eisenberg, MD, assistant professor of urology. The lead author is Andrew Sun, MD, a resident in urology.

      • Some 24.5 percent of men and 14.5 percent of women in the analysis reported having used marijuana

      • There was a positive association between the frequency of marijuana use and the frequency of sexual intercourse.

        • This relationship applied to both sexes:

          • Women denying marijuana use in the past year, for example, had sex on average 6.0 times during the previous four weeks, whereas that number was 7.1 for daily pot users.

          • Among men, the corresponding figure was 5.6 for nonusers and 6.9 for daily users.


  • How to come out as furry / LGBTQ+

    • FA 047 EXPLAINING RELATIONSHIPS TO FAMILY https://www.feralattraction.com/podcasts/fa047

  • Negotiating boundaries and rules as an adolescent / young adult

    • How to negotiate permission for meets / cons

    • Empathize with parents’ needs

  • Achieving social independence while financially dependent

    • Try to share (SFW!) photos with parents while on trips

    • Make them feel remembered, cherished, and included and they will be more trusting of you!

  • Managing empty nest syndrome

    • Reminders to call home

  • How to handle being told no / managing disappointment

    • Don’t ask questions you don’t know the answer to!

      • Game out what your response to hearing no will be

      • Don’t react emotionally on the fly and let yourself be surprised by hearing no


  • Sharing and envy/jealousy

  • How to handle blackmail

  • How to get along with each other

Extended Family Members / In-Laws

  • Getting along with people you don’t like

    • Finding common cause and empathizing

  • Getting along despite differences in religious / political views



Subject: Suggestions for Lower Price Psychology

Question / Message / Feedback: Hi Metriko and Viro,


I just wanted to suggest something that is relevant to the show. I've noticed that there are many episodes on mental health, as well as many discussions in the Telegram chats.


Having gone through a number of clinical psychologists, I know that they can be expensive, even when subsidised through insurance companies or the government. However, some university campuses would have a psychology faculty, and would probably have a supervised, student led psychology clinic.


Basically, while clinical psychologists are being trained, they have to undertake a certain amount of prac. To do this, the university sets up a clinic where the students, while being supervised by teaching staff, are able to practice the skills that they're learning. It is usually much cheaper than a private psychologist.


There are a few drawbacks - they often won't be able to help with complex mental illnesses, or with patients who are in immediate danger of harming themselves or someone else; and the students will only do their prac for a semester or year, so you will probably go through a number of psychologists during your therapy - notes are left with the clinic, but it can be harder to form a relationship with an ever-changing psych.


There are free online CBT options, such as MoodGym (created by the Australian National University - https://moodgym.com.au/), but it can be hard to go through alone (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24831119).


Hope this is helpful




  • Subject: Family in Flux

    • Hello, I'd like to share my story on this and ask if you could give any advice. I live in a house that's always in a state of "shift", or so to say.

    • I've come to realize recently that my parents are emotionally abusive to both my brother and I. I haven't spoken up about it directly to my parents, but I have told my counselor. I am trying to be more independent as I am going into high school, but they go to extreme lengths to keep me in the house and away from the world outside of school and home as much as possible. I can't have any sort of conversation with either of my parents without them being crazy manipulative about everything I say.

    • Is there a way I can get my point across to them effectively? Should I let the abuse slide or should I take actions against it?

    • A young listener


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Metriko Oni is a former government environmental disaster mitigations expert with a focus on outreach, education, and policy writing. He now works with computers. He has been active in the fandom since 2013 and has been an advocate for transparent lines of communication. His interests include philosophy, media, futurism, and speculative fiction.