On this week’s show we open with a discussion on the Oh Joy Sex Toy comic for aftercare. Our main topic is on oral sex. We talk about different tricks and offer advice on how to please your partners. We close out this week’s show with a question on handling emotional baggage in an open relationship.
Aftercare by Ariel Vittori (ohjoysextoy.com/aftercare/)
- Where to stimulate male/female
- What to do with your hands?
- Safety / STIs
- Spit or Swallow
Subject: our relationship is now open, but I'm struggling with personal feelings.
Question / Message / Feedback: I'm struggling with insecurity in my now open relationship. I don't know where to start so I'll just ramble as the thoughts form.
Things that didn't bother me before, do now. We both rp online and chat. But now I'm feeling paranoid when I wasn't before. I haven't gotten to talk to this person she wants to add to her life, ive seen him but not had contact since. Said he was busy when I asked about chatting with him, but wonder if she thinks I'm not ready to. Maybe im not. It pains me to admit I don't fill my wife's needs. She wants some things I can't do. Some BDSM stuff I'm not comfortable doing. It's just not in my character. I feel pressured when it comes to some things. Lighter kinky things I can enjoy. Also I'm 5 years older and it seems like she wants some one closer to her age to explore with. In her favor she made a point to try and make this work in an effort to improve or at least maintain our relationship. Instead of leaving me. I believe her when she tells me she wants to keep me, but wants a master too. I guess I'm asking for help handling my own emotional state here, so that I can help this go smoothly. We have been a couple for years. She tried to ignore it and stick it out but after it's come up a few times I've agreed to open up. She assures me that we will stay together. So how can I support her in this, and get a hold on my wild emotions and concerns? I hate the thought of some one hurting her, but it excites her. I also struggle with thoughts of an accident or her feelings getting hurt. She has been faithful and committed. I just don't know how to come to terms with it all. I don't blame her. I mean, I've considered having sex with a friend or two myself. She was always my number one though. It woulda been a fling with a friend. Wouldn't even consider doing it though, had she not suggested I do so. That would be my choice to do so if I did. I digress though. I wouldn't commit to any one else. She wants to commit to this friend as her master. I need to learn how to deal with myself in this time of change. Thanks for taking time to read this. I've been reading your column and it helped get me think differently. But I could use some personal advice when youre able.
Next week’s topic: Drugs and Alcohol
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