FA 050 Fairness versus Equality

Feral  Attraction
Episode 050 - Fairness vs. Equality 12/21

Introduction topic



Difference between Fairness, Equality, and Equity

  • Equality

    • Equality aims to ensure that everyone gets the same things in order to enjoy full, healthy lives

  • Equity

    • Equity involves trying to understand and give people what they need to enjoy full, healthy lives

    • Platinum rule

  • Fairness

    • Working to compromise so that the majority of people can be happy

    • Fairness is far easier to achieve from an equity point of view than from an equality point of view    

Common sources of conflict

  • Sex and dating

    • Number of sexual partners

    • Types of allowable sexual play

    • Kinks

    • Genders of permitted partners

    • Sexualities of permitted partners

  • Spending

    • Bills (Rent, Electric, etc…)

  • Financial contributions

  • Education / Employment obligations

  • House chores / cleaning

  • Planning dates


  • Subject: sacrificing one of my sexual sides to make life "easy"

    • Question / Message / Feedback: Me and my mate have been together for over a year, and our relationship started quickly and with a sexual spark. I was top for the first few weeks and then decided to try out being bottom, which then let us switch from one to the other, taking turns but not caring who spent more time doing what, but over time I've been getting less sexual advances of him wanting to bottom, and each time circumstance seems to have it that something doesn't go completely right, he either gets hurt, or can't be ready, or isn't in the mood. I found that it was far easier for us to have sex if I just went bottom all the time. It feels like I'm shutting down a part of myself and I feel like this could make things go worse, but each time we talk he says he should be letting me top more, but still it happens less and less. We both love each other for who we are, not just our sexual attraction. What's happened to the sexual side of things? And I get the feeling I'm pushing my feelings down, and that can be dangerous?


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Metriko Oni

Metriko Oni is a former government environmental disaster mitigations expert with a focus on outreach, education, and policy writing. He now works with computers. He has been active in the fandom since 2013 and has been an advocate for transparent lines of communication. His interests include philosophy, media, futurism, and speculative fiction.