FA 020 Social Anxiety

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Episode 020 - Social Anxiety 05/24

Intro 00:00:42

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  • HIV infection may cause premature aging of cells

    • ABC News (4/21, Mohney, Winter) reports on its website that “researchers are now learning how long-term HIV infection can affect the body and even cause premature aging of cells.” For the study, investigators “analyzed 137 people with HIV and 44 people without the virus.”

    • STAT (4/21, Anyaegbunam) reports that the researchers “inspected a kind of epigenetic change in the DNA, called methylation, which can be used as a biological clock.” The investigators found “that HIV-positive participants had methylation patterns suggestive of a biological age an average of five years older than they actually were.” Additionally, “this advanced biological aging was” linked to “a 19 percent increased risk of mortality.” The findings were published in Molecular Cell.


What is Social Anxiety? 00:11:36

  • Social Anxiety is is a feeling of uneasiness, dread, or apprehension about social interaction and presentation. Frequently, the primary concern fueling social anxiety is a concern that one will be (or is being) judged negatively by other people, regardless of whether this is actually the case. The experience of occasional, mild social anxiety is quite common, as is the experience of anxiety in general. Social anxiety can range from a relatively benign, infrequent level of severity to being a major hindrance in everyday life.

    • Social Anxiety is not bad, as everyone experiences it. It allows us to remain sensitive to the thoughts and experiences of others; however, when it is beyond the norm or causes you to avoid interacting with others and impacts your overall quality of life you should seek the help of a mental health specialist to help you overcome those issues

    • Metriko recommends Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven, Step-by-Step Techniques for Overcoming your Fear by Martin M. Antony PhD and Richard Swinson MD as a guide to help you overcome social anxiety issues

  • Symptoms of Social Anxiety

    • Sensations

      • Blushing

      • Sweating

      • Racing heart

      • Shaking or tremor

      • Dry mouth

      • Shortness of breath

      • Feeling faint

    • Thoughts

      • “They’re going to hate me”

      • “I don’t belong here”

      • “I’m going to just mess it up even more”

      • “I won’t have anything interesting to say”

    • Behaviors

      • Avoiding social situations

      • Apologizing excessively

      • Always looking for reassurance from others

  • Common Triggers

    • Interpersonal

      • Going on a date

      • Job interviews

      • Calling someone on the phone

      • Starting a conversation with someone

      • Going to a party / convention / group setting

    • Performance

      • Public Speech

      • Going shopping / to dinner / a movie alone

      • Dropping something in a public place

      • Voicing an opinion during a class

      • Reading to others

Treatment Options for Social Anxiety 00:45:36

  • CBT

    • Viro recommends this resource for more information: 

    • Question your emotions

      • Remember anxiety is much less visible than you imagine.

      • People aren’t usually judging you or thinking about you nearly as much as you think they are

    • Decatastrophize

    • Distraction techniques

      • Try counting backwards from 1000 by 7’s or 6’s.

      • Find an object to characterize and describe in detail to yourself

    • Move in the direction of greatest courage

      • Don’t allow yourself to practice avoidance/escape if you can

      • Try to catch yourself practicing safety behaviors, which often turn into self-fulfilling prophecies

        • Drinking/drug use to excess

        • Keeping self in background

        • Sticking only to people you know, avoiding notice

  • Psychoeducation

  • In Vivo Exposure / Exposure Therapy

  • Medical Professional

Question(s) 01:11:09

  • How do you let someone in a relationship know that you're into their partner, but not necessarily into them?

    • Received via Telegram (name withheld)

Closer 01:20:00

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Metriko Oni

Metriko Oni is a former government environmental disaster mitigations expert with a focus on outreach, education, and policy writing. He now works with computers. He has been active in the fandom since 2013 and has been an advocate for transparent lines of communication. His interests include philosophy, media, futurism, and speculative fiction.