FA 002 Nonviolent Communication Strategies

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Feral  Attraction
Episode 002 - Nonviolent Communication Strategies 01/20

Intro 00:00:26


Owning One’s Emotional Shit 00:06:00

  • Franklin Veux (http://www.morethantwo.com)

  • “I” Statements

    • “I Heard you say ____, is that right?”

    • “Did you mean ____?”

  • Taking a time out

  • Saying the thing that is difficult to say

    • The thing that is the most difficult to say is often the most important thing to say

Apologies and Corrections 00:29:15

  • How to apologize

    • Be specific

    • Be responsible

  • What changes you’ll make or expect

    • Cost of admissions

    • Setting limits: “emotional boundaries” versus “ultimatums”

  • Who to vent to

    • Don’t take it to Twitter

    • Don’t vent to mutual friends / partners

    • If you are being abused, speak to the proper authorities. Be safe! Don’t sacrifice your health or safety for a relation

Question(s) 01:16:10

  • Is it practical to have a long-distance polyamorous relationship?
    (Anonymous via Twitter)


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      Panel Room 2 (Cambridge B)

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Metriko Oni

Metriko Oni is a former government environmental disaster mitigations expert with a focus on outreach, education, and policy writing. He now works with computers. He has been active in the fandom since 2013 and has been an advocate for transparent lines of communication. His interests include philosophy, media, futurism, and speculative fiction.