FA 025 Kinks After Dark

Hello Everyone!

We open tonight's show with a discussion of whether BDSM power exchange relationships are valid or are simply a sign of mental illness. We reference some of our own advice columns in this discussion, as well as a discussion that took place on Twitter in which we were attacked for our position on this matter. 

This was a personal topic for us on the show, as Metriko has been in several relationships centered around D/s, and Viro and Koji are in a long-term committed relationship with heavy D/s mechanics negotiated and in play. We discuss the situation in depth, what we can glean from it, and how to discuss relationship styles you may not agree with. 

Our main topic is on our own personal take on D/s relationships: How do we personally identify in the D/s scheme of things, and what do we find works and does not work for long-term happiness. We also address some stray questions and offer some clarifications on topics or terms we might have glossed over previously in this month.

We close out the show with a listener question that asks whether you can be in a successful bisexual polyamorous relationship. The questioner identifies as pansexual and genderblind, and is doubtful as to whether or not this type of arrangement would be successful for them. This is also our first question via audio recording, so that's pretty awesome too!

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

Thanks and, as always, be well!

 

Metriko Oni

Metriko Oni is a former government environmental disaster mitigations expert with a focus on outreach, education, and policy writing. He now works with computers. He has been active in the fandom since 2013 and has been an advocate for transparent lines of communication. His interests include philosophy, media, futurism, and speculative fiction.