FA 082 Furry Sex! Yiff!

On this week's show we open with a serious discussion on forgiveness in the fandom. After the events in Charlottesville, we talk about the radical, racist elements in the fandom. It's no secret that we at Feral Attraction stand with those who stand against bigotry, racism, and hateful elements within the fandom (and at large), however the question of how to forgive people who were misguided participants in these groups has come up. How do we forgive those who, through misguided judgement or a perverse search for acceptance, found themselves on the wrong side of history?

We shift to a less serious main topic on Furry Sex and Yiff! While slightly academic, we talk about why we have sex. The secret answer is that we aren't entirely certain. We go over some theories and then launch into a discussion on what the future of sex looks like and why we, as furries, might actually be blazing the trail when it comes to the integration of technology and emotional intimacy. We also discuss how real-life, meatspace sex can be different for furries as opposed to mundane individuals and couples.

We close out the show with a question on small penis shame. For men who have a smaller unit how do they move past shame when their mate (or perhaps a metamour) might have a smaller penis. We talk about why penis size or girth is not important and how to accept 'yes' as an answer.

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 081 Underwear and Sex Party Etiquette

We open this week's show with a discussion about extramarital sex and relationships. Research likes to show that the older you get the more likely you are to engage in extramarital relationships. We discuss why the research might be biased against ethical polyamory and tear apart an article on the subject.

Our main topic is on Underwear and Sex Party Etiquette. For individuals at conventions or seeking play events within their local communities, the idea of a party centered around sex or mutual appreciation can seem rather overwhelming at first. We talk about what the do's and do not's are, as well as go over how to properly attend and organize such an event.

We close out the show with a question on guilt. For many people who have hurt others (either intentionally or not), the sensation of guilt after you have made amends can take some time to overcome. We talk about how you can move past your own feelings of guilt and shame and the role of ritual in healing and cleansing.

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 080 First Times

On this week's show we start with Metriko talking about transparency, politics, relationships, and the honesty and vulnerability required to make your life a more genuine, fulfilling one. We make fun of Scarmucci, Streisand, and the fallacy of transparency equating to absolution.

Our main topic is on First Times. Continuing our summer of conversation and introspection we discuss our first times and how they went great (but, really, how awful they were). We also give some advice on what the best practices are for a positive first time experience. Part whimsical, part sentimental, and entirely too much information, it promises to be a a fun trip down memory lane. 

We close out the show with some feedback on murrsuit care as well as a question on how to break up with a clingy past relationship partner who refuses to dampen the flame of their desire for you. 

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 079 Murrsuits

On this week's show we open with the segment that Viro had on the Savage Lovecast with Dan Savage. We discuss why Metriko was not involved (it's okay) and what our intended points were. Thanks again to Dan Savage and his team for allowing us to air this content for you to enjoy.

Our main topic is on murrsuits. We discuss the practicality and the acceptability of the murrsuit. We discuss the difference between modified fursuits and murrsuits, whether they should be worn in public, and how to take care of your suit. It's another dive into the deep end as we go into one of the more popular (and scandalous) fetishes in the furry fandom.

We close out the show with two questions: one on dating if you are neurologically atypical, the other on how to date someone who comes from a traditional family that does not approve of your relationship-- at what point should you dump your bride to be when their family is abusive?

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 078 Sex Mistakes and Hot Takes

This week we open with a conversation on weed. Many people think that it is strictly for relaxation or for creativity, but are there applications for marijuana in the bedroom as an aphrodisiac? We look at a study and try to remove the stigma from sativa. 

Our main topic is a relaxed show. In response to last year's episode on our relationship mistakes, many people think that we are masters of sex. This is not the case. We talk about problems, errors, mistakes, and negative situations we've come across in our sex play throughout our life? Want to hear about the time that Viro had his dick pepper sprayed? About the time a guy laughed at a commercial and voided all over Metriko's bed? Want to take pleasure in our past miseries? This is your episode!

We close out the show with two questions: one on getting over negativity, the other on finding affordable sex toys and fetish gear. 

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 077 Poly/Mono Mixed Relationships

This week we open with a discussion on the nine habits of emotionally intelligent people. On this show we like to talk about stoicism and pragmatism, but healthy relationships also take a good deal of emotional intelligence to ensure that you fight the right fights and cultivate your own integrity and moral compass. While clickbait-y in nature, we go over an article concerning these habits.

Our main topic is on Polyamorous and Monogamous Mixed Relationships. What happens when a monogamous individual dates a polyamorous individual who seeks other partners? What happens when one partner wants to keep the relationship closed but the other wants it to be open? We discuss our own experiences in relationships of this style, the pitfalls and warning signs to look out for, and ways to make this relationship style as healthy and ethical as possible.

We close out the show with two questions: one on erectile dysfunction, the other on a friend's fiance being potentially abusive. At what point do you abandon your friends when they make potentially destructive choices for their own life?

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 076 - Sensual Touch and Erogenous Zones

This week we open with a longer discussion on Gay Pride and the overall LGBT/Queer movement. After discussions on Twitter, Telegram, and other methods with friends and fellow queer individuals, it came to our attention that a lot of the history of queer people has not been shared, taught, or found important. We talk about the importance of queer history and why we must continue to fight for rights for all individuals who share intersectionality with our community.

Our main topic is on sensual touch and erogenous zones. We talk about how to find the parts of your body that you respond to the most, and give you some ideas as to how you can explore these places by yourself or with a mate.

We close out the show with some feedback on last week's Long Distance D/s question, and have a new question from someone who does not find their partner attractive in real life, but thinks that their fursona is super hot. Is there a problem with him, and if so how should he proceed to correct it?

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 075 All Questions Show Vol. 6

This week we open with a discussion on how to identify ways that your fuckbuddy, roleplay partner, or new romantic interest might not be into you. We look at an article from Grindr's blog (yes, we read it for the articles) concerning five ways to identify how he might just not be into you. We then tack on our own five and give examples from our own lives.

Our main section this week is our sixth All Questions Show! We cover a diverse range of topics, from how to decide between two potential lovers, to how to go about making friends in real life when no one seems to like you, to whether or not it is okay to not be interested in someone because of a perceived gap in intelligence. We offer our advice and, as always, invite you to offer your own takes on these issues. 

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 074 All Questions Show Vol. 5

This week we open with a discussion on Social Media and self-confidence. We look at recent studies from Princeton University and the University of South Wales that looks into whether or not tailoring your social media accounts and working to get likes and retweets actually acts as a self-confidence booster. Not to spoil you, but the answer is no, it does not.

Our main portion of the show is our fifth All-Questions Show! We take a trip through our backlog of questions, ranging from helping a younger fur in a conservative household with dating advice, to how to ensure your genuine self is being portrayed to potential partners online, to materials and resources for a couple wanting to slightly open up their relationship. Several of these questions are longer and, as always, we invite you to offer your feedback and offer your own take, especially if you think we missed the mark.

We close out the show with some feedback on our previous episode's question on how to remain optimistic when you feel like your life has been put on hold.

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 073 Short Term Relationships

We open this week's show with a discussion on low self-esteem and sacrifice. We look at research that shows that the lower the self-esteem one has, the higher the level of resentment that one can feel at the sacrifices one make in a relationship. We discuss ways to avoid these feelings of resentment and how to avoid making positive reinforcement a transactional reaction. 

Our main topic is on Short Term Relationships. We talk about Summer Loving and how to have a blast. Many people like to look down on short term relationships as they are "temporary" and "fleeting", but we at Feral Attraction believe that you shouldn't measure a relationship by the length of time or the depth of commitment but by how happy you and your partner(s) are made within the relationship. 

We close out this week's show with two questions: one on polyamorous parenting and dating, and the other on how to move forward and remain optimistic in a life that makes you feel like you are on pause while everyone is moving ahead of you. 

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 072 Outdoor Sex and Other Thrills

We open this week's show with a discussion on sexting. Mainstream media likes to report on the fact that sexting is corrupting our youth and pushing us to make uninformed sex choices and practice unsafe (and possibly illegal) behaviors. We look at research that analyzes whether such a correlation exists and, if so, what can we do to stop the spread of evil sexting (spoiler: there is no such correlation and sexting is pretty swell).

Our main topic is on exhibitionism and other thrills. All too often we at Feral Attraction are asked why people like having sex outside, or why we think it's okay for people to wear tame BDSM gear at conventions, or why we think it's okay for people to privately engage in kink in public. We go through why people might like exhibitionism, what to look out for, and share stories about times where we've skirted the law on these issues. 

We close out the show with a classic situation: furry meets furry, furry likes furry, but furry doesn't know what furry looks like in real life. How can you ask people you've met online to send you a picture of them in person without coming off like a superficial creep. We examine this (and talk about AOL Chatrooms: a/s/l, pic s2r, hyd).

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 071 All-Questions Show Vol. 4

This week we open with a discussion on negative and positive thinking. We go through an article on how negativity can impact your overall health, and ways that medical professionals and researchers advise that you can make your overall health better.

Our main topic is our fourth All-Questions Show! We take a trip through our backlog of questions, ranging from telling a non-fur partner about being furry to how to handle getting possessions back from exes who do not feel they have to return them. Several of these questions are longer and, as always, we invite you to offer your feedback and offer your own take, especially if you think we missed the mark.

We close out the show with some feedback on our Drugs and Alcohol show and how to go about doing drugs in as safe a fashion as possible.

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 070 Drugs and Alcohol

We open this week's show with a discussion on radical honesty. We look at a Buzzfeed video where couples experiment with being totally honest with one another and, after cutting through the crap of the video, talk about ways you can implement some of the ideas they have in your own life and relationships.

Our main topic is on drugs and alcohol. Within the fandom there is a heavy focus on individuals being inebriated or high, and many such activities are praised or sought after as being inclusive in the fandom as a whole. We talk about why this is not optimal for your life or for relationships, how drugs and alcohol have impacted our life (positively and negatively), and offer some advice to new members of the fandom. 

It's important to note that if you struggle with substance abuse, please seek help as soon as possible.

We close out this week's show with a question whether it is a good idea to re-establish a friendship with a former partner who might still be carrying a torch for you. Should you proceed with caution, or snuff out that flame?

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 069 Oral Sex

We open this week's show with a discussion of good BDSM Aftercare techniques. We look at an Oh Joy Sex Toy comic that goes over different ways you can help prevent SubDrop (and DomDrop), as well as an explanation as to basic BDSM terminology.

Our main topic is on Oral Sex. For episode 69 we invite guest host Koji Fox back onto the show to help us on an adventure of self discovery, dick sucking, labia licking, sexploration. We go over tips, techniques, and ways to improve your oral game. 

We close out this week's show with a question on being emotionally available and ready for an open relationship.

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 068 Disclosure

On this weeks episode we open with a discussion on rape culture. A recent article nods to the fear of false rape accusations as being a reason why millennials are having less sex. We discuss, and Metriko steps on his words a bit, at the top of the show. 

Our main topic is on disclosure. We go over the primary reasons and ways to disclose information, whether it's infidelities, diseases, or bad credit. Failure to disclose is, oftentimes, one of the reasons relationships fail. We discuss this, as well as ways we have failed at disclosure, so you can avoid relationship anxieties from this area.

We close out the show with a question from someone in an open relationship. He wants a more poly-style relationship, but his partner is hesitant. What should he do?

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 067 Sexuality and Gender Expression Ft. Debra Soh

We open this week with a discussion on disclosure when dating. A recent study shows that sexual stimuli inspire people to be more vulnerable and forthcoming on themselves and their desires and interests in a partner when it comes to dating and long-term relationships. We discuss this phenomenon and go through why sex may not be as bad on a first date.

Our main topic is a discussion on Sexuality and Gender Expression with Debra Soh! Debra is a sex researcher and neuroscientist who writes a weekly column for Playboy and has been published in several other outlets, from Scientific American to the LA Times to the Globe and Mail. You can read a separate interview that Debra had in Quillette earlier this year if you are more interested in her background and areas of focus.

As a sexologist, Debra focuses on why people have the sexual interests they have and if there is cause, neurologically, for there to be a predisposition (or even if these paraphilias are hard-wired into the brain). She discusses recent research and findings in these areas, as well as whether this applied to gender identity. We also discuss some of the more taboo paraphilias, including "cub" attraction within the fandom. 

Debra invites all listeners that have questions for her, or if you want to keep up with her recent publications, to visit her Twitter page, @debra_soh. We would like to thank Debra for coming on and sharing her expertise in this. 

We close out the show a question from a listener who is in a long distance relationship with someone who is entirely incompatible in physical appearance, fetishes, and sexual roles. Do two tops make a bottom, or should the listener break up? Debra helps us out on this involved question.

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 066 Shame 3: Direct to VHS

We open this week's episode with a discussion on monogamy and polyamory. We look at an article recently published on CNN's website that discusses polyamory in a mostly positive light. We go over the highlights, the minor issues, and why articles like this are important in the long run.

Our main topic this week is the conclusion of our series on shame. We talk about the common missteps and conflicts that can prohibit you from finding true independence from a shameful existence, like fear of abandonment or betrayal. We then get to the light at the end of the tunnel and go over the steps and actions you must take in order to live a life of genuine self-validation, and how to communicate with your current partners about the path that you feel you must take.

We close out the show with a question on long distance relationships and cheating. Our questioner's boyfriend claims that his multiple-personality-disorder is causing him to have an affair, and the questioner wants to know if this passes our smell test.

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 065 Shame 2: Electric Boogaloo

On this week's episode Metriko is alone as Viro was stuck on an airplane that wouldn't leave thanks to a few tornadoes. Viro made it to Furry Weekend Atlanta and will be back for next week's episode. With that in mind, this episode is slightly more personal and an intimate discussion with Metriko, so please enjoy!

We open this week with a discussion on sex in America. Studies are showing that we are having less sex now than we were in 1989: could this be due to stress and working more in this shitty economy? Is Netflix and chill a lie and used solely for marketing (seriously though it's only $9.99). We look at why social media might be impacting your sex life.

Our main topic is on shame. Last week we discussed what happens when you grow up with shame and choose to keep that subject secret and hidden from others. This week we discuss what happens when you reveal that shame and live life "openly". Metriko talks about his life when he was outed and how that was not the end of his quest for validation, and what it took for him to realize that he was living a lie. We go on a journey together to discover what it's really for.

We close out the show with some feedback from Snares (one of our friends and Patrons)! He wants to know how our response from the Playboy article was, and if it contrasts at all with the feedback he got when he was interviewed for an article himself! Check out the show notes for a link to his interview. Metriko speaks for the show and reminds everyone that if you would like to have us appear in your publication to get into contact with us.

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 064 Shame

On this week's show we open with a discussion on our recent article in Playboy. We go over some of the feedback we've received, explain some of our thoughts on the complaints, and explain why we agreed to give an interview in the first place in as least of a flippant fashion as possible. We also go over some feedback from last week's episode and add in a comic that was published by Oh Joy Sex Toy! which discusses Pup Play in comic format. We totally forgot to mention that-- our bad!

Our main topic is on shame. We talk about what shame actually is, how it forms in you as an individual, and what it can do to your life if left unchecked. The first in a three part episode series, this is a personal episode about us as hosts and you as a listener. Let's journey together as we work collectively to undo our faults. 

We close out the show with a question on sexual intimacy. How can someone have a dick too sensitive to touch but not sensitive enough from penetrative sex to cum? Is there something wrong with him, or is he doomed to never pleasing a sexual partner ever.

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

FA 063 Pups and Handlers

On this week's show we open with a discussion on five different theories as to why we get jealous in non-monogamous relationships. We go over theories from Freud to Labriola and get to the root to what we personally think on Feral Attraction and why jealousy might not be as bad as we make it out to be.

Our main topic is on Pups and Handlers. We bring on friend of the show Pup Powder to talk about his experience with the pup community. He delves into various areas, like who the pup community is right for, what to look for (and look out for), various terms used within the pup community, and addresses why the pup community gets along so well with the furry fandom. He also talks about Rubbout and why it's awesome.

We close out the show with some Feedback on how much Metriko talks in an episode and a question on reconciling polyamory with Christianity (or any religion, really). 

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.