How do I get musky for a partner who enjoys my scent without it becoming overpowering?

Question

My mate really loves my smell, and I want to get myself smelling musky for him so that he can enjoy it, but I really don't want my scent to be overpowering or to become any kind of a hygiene issue. How do I get myself to the right level of musky for my partner to enjoy my natural scents?

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Answer

Musk is one of those Goldilocks problems, isn't it? Too little and your mate will complain that he can't smell you or that you're too clean and sterile for his tastes, but too much and even your mate might tell you to shower first if you want to spend any time with him! Striking the right balance can be a challenge, and every person will have to find that balance on his or her own, as sweatiness, muskiness, and scent are very personal, with a high degree of variation from one person to another.

One thing that will contribute strongly to your level of musk and its pleasantness is your mood; if you are stressed, agitated, afraid, anxious, or angry, your musk will likely take on a sour smell that most people do not find pleasant, so try to save indulging your mate’s musk kink for when you are in good spirits.

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Another factor that will contribute to your musk level is whether you choose to shave certain areas of your body. If your mate likes musk a lot, you might consider choosing not to shave your armpits or pubic area, as the hair that grows in these places tends to trap natural scents.

It’s also important to remember that most people prefer fresh musk to the scent of stale sweat, so you might consider letting your partner take a whiff after you are fresh back from a workout at the gym or from a jog at the park. If you shower first before setting out to exercise, you will be very well positioned to smell good to your mate when you get back!

One thing you might want to clarify with your mate is exactly which body odor of yours it is that he appreciates. Some people enjoy foot smell, others enjoy the smell of the genitals, and still others prefer the scent of the armpits. I have even met a few furries into scents who actually prefer the smell of other areas of skin, such as the back of the neck! And, of course, it is possible your mate enjoys some combination of your scents as well.

Once you clarify which scents it is your mate would like to enjoy, you can customize your strategy a bit: If your mate loves how your balls smell but isn’t so keen on your general BO, you might want to clean your pits with a washcloth after building up musk for your partner or even consider using a cologne or deodorant. If instead it’s the pits that your mate is into, then you won’t want to use cologne or deodorant or even a scented soap, as the scents from these will interfere with your mate’s enjoyment of your natural odor.

Instead, to keep your pits from becoming overpowering while allowing them to exude your natural scent, consider using a natural, fragrance-free body deodorant such as this one, which is what I actually use myself!

It is certainly a good idea to keep revising your musk strategy as you go, as well; check in with your mate and see if he’s enjoying your scent during sexual play, and if he isn’t quite satisfied, you can brainstorm other things to try with him. Do keep in mind that musk play is an activity that often does require some preparation; remind your mate of this fact so that he isn’t disappointed if you can’t get your smell just right for spontaneous sex that breaks out between the two of you.

Hope that helps! If you have any followup questions or comments, or if you would like to tell us about musk-enhancing tips and tricks that work for you, please leave a comment below or get in touch with us via our contact page.

Viro the Science Collie

Viro Science Collie is a PhD virologist and medical writer, experienced in teaching, technical communication, and writing for the public. He has been active in the furry community since 2012 and has been happily and ethically non-monogamous for much of that time. His interests include non-traditional relationship structures, technology, biological science, and tennis.