Furry relationship and sex advice
All relationships are difficult, but furry relationships even more so. In the fandom, many relationships start online or long distance, and they are often between people who are young, new to romantic relationships, or otherwise inexperienced with socializing. As if these practical issues were not enough, the fandom is also uniquely enriched with people who practice non-traditional relationship styles, whether that be an open relationship, polyamory, relationship anarchy, or some other type of non-monogamous or power exchange relationship. Most furries figure out how to navigate these unfamiliar relationship styles and relate to each other ethically over a period of years, making many painful mistakes along the way. At Feral Attraction, it is our goal to save you time and heartache, by allowing you to learn from our own mistakes and our own experiences.
Are you in a relationship, but thinking of adding an additional mate? Have you considered an open relationship, but weren't sure what that would mean for your existing relationship? Are you single, and considering dating a couple, or joining up with an existing pack? Are you struggling with envy, or jealousy, or having difficulty getting over someone? At Feral Attraction, we have been there. Hopefully, by listening to our podcasts and reading our advice column, you will better learn how to relate to others ethically, with the full enthusiastic consent of all parties involved, and make your relationships stronger, healthier, and happier as a result.
Topics covered will include non-violent communication strategies, conflict resolution, ethical compromise, radical honesty, informed consent, safer sex practices, relationship structures ("monogamish" relationships, open relationships, "polyamorish" relationships, polyamorous relationships, relationship anarchy, and traditional monogamy), personal boundaries, relationship rules, handling rejection, and how and when to say no.
We are here to be a resource to the furry community, and we will answer your questions! Feel free to contact us, or, if you would rather keep yourself anonymous while seeking advice, use our contact form or visit our ask.fm page. For updates, follow us on Twitter at @FeralAttractFM, check us out on Reddit, visit us on Facebook, or consider using our Telegram broadcast channel.
Advice Column Topics
Viro the Science Collie (co-host) is a PhD virologist and medical writer, experienced in teaching, technical communication, and writing for the public. He has been active in the furry community since 2012 and has been happily non-monogamous for much of that time. His interests include human sexuality, psychology, technology, futurism, biological science, and tennis.
Koji (graphic designer and sound engineer) is an urban-dwelling grey fox. He enjoys motion graphics, photography, and traditional media. Koji grew up in Colorado where he developed an eternal love for hiking, camping, and skiing. Koji has been involved in polyamorous and non-monogamous relationships in the furry community for five years.
Metriko Oni (co-host) is a former government environmental disaster mitigations expert with a focus on outreach, education, and policy writing. He now works with computers. He has been active in the fandom since 2013 and has been an advocate for transparent lines of communication. His interests include philosophy, media, futurism, and speculative fiction.
When you & your partner don't agree on a kink, you can: A) drop it B) Incorporate it in sex rarely C) Allow exploration w/ outside partners
Do not use fear, obligation, or guilt to manipulate your mate(s). If you love them, you should want them to do what is best for them.
Sex isn't the only way to enjoy physical intimacy with a mate. Cuddling, sensual touch, massage, and other forms of touch are incredible.
We do not choose our desires, but we do decide whether to act on them. Hold people responsible for their actions, not thought-crimes.